FAMILY – THE DESIGN OF GOD

“Family is God’s design, accept them and see how it comes to fulfilment."

I have never seen or heard of anyone who chose for himself or herself the family he or she was born into – Never! I didn’t chose my family, likewise you. God who knows all things has by Himself chosen for us in accordance to His purpose for us. Friends, there wasn’t an iota of mistake in your making. The process may truly not be licit, but fact(s) can’t be rebut that there were millions of sperm cells that were released for only one to fertilize an egg. This was a contest among the sperm cells from your father, because proximity was important in the race, so there can be the development of you, the cells all struggled so they can reach and penetrate an egg. Through it all, you won the race – Imagine that all the cells were wearing a jersey and they were all numbered, it could have been cell number 1, 2, 10, 40, or even number 1 million, but just maybe you were number 20 million and you won the race of proximity, then you must be a special one.
The process may be illicit and would have been another person’s right to win the race, but you won the race, so congratulations. You must learn to see family as a gift from God; learn to receive and love them with the whole of your heart, despite the failures in the past; you must learn to see gracefully and believe that something good can come to light from your family.

Stop complaining and comparing yourself or family with others, it won’t unscramble or solve the problem. We didn’t have an idea of the family we were born into today, some persons have always been defended while others have learnt to fight all through their lives; some have never missed a meal, while others struggle to have just a meal; some are rich, others are poor.

Whatever it may be, or wherever you find yourself, know that you didn’t choose your family, so what you must decide to do, is to see how you can add value to them. Become the agent of change to them, fight for them, ensure that they are happy, encourage each other, make it work if it’s tearing apart. Don’t create space for the enemy to make your family a camping ground.

Few years ago, my siblings and I didn’t relate as family should, hardly would I bring down myself to play with them. I came to realize that something was wrong – this is not how to live. I deliberately called for a meeting and distributed papers to them so they could write what they dislike about me. After going through all they wrote, I apologized and set off taking responsibility to see that everyone is at peace and the atmosphere sublime in love. I kept looking for a need I could meet, and on a fateful day, I had to call my younger brother to sit, for me to wash his feet. That was usual, I didn’t choose any of my siblings, so I must love them the way they are.

I always will emphasize seeing the difference in people to be the first step in living peacefully.

As husbands – love your wives.

As wives – love your husbands.

As children – love and accept your parents.

As parent – love your children.

Do you have a vision for your present family?

Ask yourself – What can you do differently? For you didn’t choose your family.