[Top Smart] Why You Really Should Say "No" More Often

We all know we should say, “no” more often. But we’re nice people, and so, it’s hard to turn down an invitation. Ultimately, that’s what most of our yeses move to Request. 

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Life is stuffed with them Your to-do list may be a set of requests. So is your inbox. Your Facebook messages, Instagram DMs, Twitter notifications. Requests, requests, requests. and that we haven’t even gotten to friends asking favors. as well as business opportunities. When you’re starting in your career, contacts, and customers expect your free assistance while every call may be a welcome distraction from your underdog status. As soon as you’re seeing some level of productivity and success, you’ll be inundated with opportunities. 

Let’s partner up, get on my podcast, here’s a paid gig. I call it ‘opportunity suffocation. But, at the top of the day, they’re all just requests. irrespective of how well they re disguised. And don’t we all know what we've to do? Write more. Pitch more. Practice more. Most of the time, it’s more of the identical. Answering requests won’t help thereupon. Of course, there are other good reasons to mention “no” besides focus at work. 

Like time. the large one. the primary one they throw at our head. “If you comply with every little thing, you’ll haven't any time left for the large and important ones.” True. But isn’t that more of a long-term problem? Sure, regret sucks, but I rarely desire small detours here and there hurt. Of course, you can’t allow them to bring together, but the time argument feels rather weak to me. Now, energy, that’s a unique thing. a far better reason, I think. on every occasion, I say “yes” once 

I want to mention “no,” a bit piece of me dies. “Yes” is what drags you out of the house on a Friday night once you want to remain in. “Yes” is what sneaks you into a space stuffed with the incorrect people. “Yes” is what makes your gut twist within the morning once you drive to a toxic job. Often, it’s not most time I’m searching for with my nose, it’s relief. Get that burden off of me! I don’t want to sell my soul, to fake another smile, to pretend I don’t know you’re benefiting more from my “yes” than me. Give me peace of mind. Give me the “ah, dodged that bullet” moment. That’s what I would like. I care lots more that than losing an hour, a day, a week. Saying “no” isn’t the maximum amount about happiness as it’s about not being miserable. Then again, of course, it’s important for contentment too. But not the way we predict. Yes, we indeed need space to create our little forts of happiness. But — and that I never hear anyone speak about this — weal so needs room for randomness. Because happiness may be a very random thing. the most effective things in life are side effects. 

The frozen dessert parlor you found once you were lost. The old flame you suddenly met on the train. The new reasonably tea they offered at the cafeteria. But without margin, both in time and energy, there’s no room for any of this. If your schedule, your friend's list, your life is just too packed with obligations, there’s no space for serendipity to even occur. Because you’re never breathing. Wandering. Allowing yourself an open mind. I believe that’s the important reason saying “no” is so important. Getting ahead at work, choosing your life’s projects, not being drained by toxic suckers, all of that matters. But if in spite of everything of that, there’s still nowhere to travel for the moments in your life that actually make it worth living, why bed anyway? 

That’s counterintuitive. We all know we should always say “no” more often. But we predict we should always bed because we have already got numerous goodies to fill life with. And while that’s true, the most effective moments of all are the small dots that will cover the gaps along the way. And they’re impossible to visualize beforehand. “No” feels harder to mention. More empowering after we do. But it’s just a singular defense. A lone disaster averted. It needs time to compound. Our yeses, however, are where the important danger lies. “Yes” doesn’t feel special, but it is. Because it’s m nos combined. thousand-fold more powerful. Every “yes” might be a “no” to 1,000,000 other things, a number of which you can’t even imagine. But they may still be the most effective things that’ll ever happen to you. ensure you permit them to exist.

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